A Ruthless Monster.
The Narcissist cursed or blessed with mental X-ray vision.
He sees through people’s emotional shields, their petty lies, their pitiable defences and their grandiose fantasies.
He knows when they deviate from the truth and by how much.
He intuitively grasps his victim’s self interested goals and accurately predicts the strategy and tactics he will adopt in order to achieve it all.
The Narcissist can’t stand self important, self inflated, pompous, bigoted, self righteous, and hypocritical people, and rages at the inefficient, lazy and weak, Perhaps because the Narcissist recognises himself in them.
The Narcissist tries to break the painful reflection of his own flaws in theirs and homes in on the chinks in his laboriously constructed armours.
He spots his victim’s Achilles heel and attaches to it, he pricks the gasbags that most people are and deflates them and forces them to confront their finiteness, helplessness and mediocrity.
Narcissists negates their victim’s sense of uniqueness and reduces them to size and to proportion providing them with a perspective.
The Narcissist does all this cruelly, abrasively, sadistically and lethally efficiently.
He has no compassion or compunction.
And he preys on his victims vulnerabilities, however microscopic and well concealed.
The Narcissist exposes his victims double talk and derides their double standards.
Refuses to play their game of prestige, status and hierarchy.
Draws them out of their shelters and destabilises them.
He deconstructs his victims narratives, their myths, their superstitions, their hidden assumptions and their polluted language.
He calls a spade a spade.
The Narcissist forces his victims to react and by reacting they confront their true dilapidated selves, their dead end careers, their mundane lives, the death of their hopes and wishes and their shattered dreams.
And all the time he observes with the passionate hatred of the outcast and dispossessed the truths about them, the ones they are trying so desperately to conceal especially from themselves.
The facts are denied so ugly and uncomfortably.
Those things that never get mentioned properly, the personally hurtful, the dark ignored and hidden secrets, the tumbling skeletons, the taboos, the fears, the atavistic urges, the pretensions, the social lies, the distorted narratives of life piercing, bloodied and ruthless are the Narcissist’s revenge, the settling of scores, the levelling of the battlefield.
The Narcissist lances the high, mighty and successful happy people, those who possess what he deserves and never had are the object of his green eyed monsters.
The Narcissist inconveniences makes him think and reflect on his own misery and wallow in it’s rancid outcomes.
He is coerced to confront his own sadism, unforgivable deeds and unforgettable omissions.
He dredges the sewer that is in his mind, forcing to the surface long repressed emotions, often suppressed pain, nightmares and fears.
And he pretends to do so selflessly for their own good.
The Narcissist preaches, hectors and pours forth vitriolic diatribes, exposes, imposes, writhes and foams in the proverbial mouth, all for the greater good.
He is so righteous, so true, so geared to help and so meritorious.
His motives are unassailable.
He is always so chillingly reasoned and so algorithmically precise.
The Narcissist is a frozen wrath, he plays his alien games by his very own rules but he is so foreign to it that he is unbeatable.
The Narcissist’s ability to penetrate the defences of his victims is instinctual and intuitive, not the outcome of deliberative analysis.
He homes in on other people’s vulnerabilities as a tiger mauls a straying weakened gazelle, he leverages his target’s fears and neediness the way a virus breaches cellular defences and then uses the cell’s machinery to replicate and he taunts, abuses, torments, harasses and stalks his prey because it’s fun and imbues him with a sense of pleasurable omnipotence.
Acting this way is in the Narcissist’s nature, it is an integral and crucial part of who he is.
The Narcissist’s x-ray vision is strictly limited to the traits, qualities and behaviours of his victims that are useful in subjugating them and converting them into sources of Narcissistic Supply.
The Narcissist’s arrested personal development, his massive psychological defences, his poor reality test, his grandiose and persecutory fantasies and his cognitive deficits render him incapable of true, profound and comprehensive insight into others and into the human condition.
Contrary to widely held views, Narcissists and Psychopaths may actually possess empathy.
Narcissists may even be hyper empathic, attuned to the minutest signals emitted by their victims and endowed with a penetrating X-ray vision.
Narcissists tend to abuse their empathic skills by employing it exclusively for personal gain, the extraction of Narcissistic Supply or in the pursuit of Antisocial and Sadistic goals.
They regard their ability to empathise as another weapon in their arsenal.
There are two possible Pathological Reactions to childhood abuse and trauma.
Codependence and Narcissism.
Both involve fantasy as a defence mechanism.
The Codependent has a pretty realistic assessment of themselves but their view of others is fantastic.
The Narcissist’s self image and self perception are delusional and grandiose but his penetrating view of others is bloodcurdlingly accurate.
Narcissistic Psychopath’s version of empathy can be labelled as cold empathy, similar to the cold emotions felt by them.
The Cognitive Element of empathy is there, but not so it’s Emotional Correlate.
It is consequently a barren detached and cerebral kind of intrusive gaze devoid of compassion and a feeling of affinity with one’s fellow humans.
Narcissists and Psychopaths also appear to be empathising with their possessions, objects, pets and their sources of Narcissistic Supply or Material Benefits, often their nearest and dearest significant others or friends and associates.
But this is not real empathy, it is a mere projection of the Narcissist’s or Psychopath’s own insecurities and fears, needs and wishes, fantasies and priorities.
This kind of displayed empathy usually vanishes the minute the subject ceases to play a role in the Narcissist’s or Psychopath’s life and his Psychodynamic processes.
Psychopaths and Narcissists strike their interlocutors as being some kind of alien life forms or artificial intelligence.
In short it is similar to humanoid robots or androids.
When people come across Narcissists or Psychopaths the Uncanny Valley reaction kicks in, people feel revolted, scared and repelled.
They can’t put the finger on what it is that provokes these negative reactions but after a few initial encounters they tend to keep their distance.