A Wolf In Sheeps Clothing!
A Narcissist is a Wolf in Sheeps clothing.
He can appear to be the nicest person in the world and start doing things for us that would seem to say I really care about you.
Then we will begin to feel that our energy is being drained, we are feeling confused, we are doubting ourselves and feeling very frustrated.
More time will be spent in this confusion trying to sort things out in our mind until we realise just how much energy we are giving to the Narcissist.
On the outside the Narcissist can look like an Angel but truly there is a Demon within.
He is the kind of Demon that will steal our light then leave us in the dark wondering what just happened.
Don’t let his fake kindness fool you!
It is NOT a true kindness and it does NOT come from a caring heart.
Narcissists can feign kindness in order to hook us in and feed off our life force like a parasite.
As long as our energy is focused on the Narcissist we are feeding him with our light.
Even if we don’t spend time with him or even see him.
We can remain hooked through our thoughts and dreams.
We must become warriors to fight for own own soul.
Because if we don’t fight for ourselves the Narcissist will succeed in stealing our light!
We must remember at all times that the Narcissist does NOT really care about us!
He simply can’t!
He can only care about himself and his own needs.
Our needs are our problem not his and he does look at our needs as a problem.
It gets in the way of his needs being fulfilled.
What we need to fully understand is that the Narcissist has a big void within.
It is a big dark pit of emptiness that he cloaks behind a disguise of Happy go Lucky Good Guy, Mr. Charming or whatever his Image may be.
Beneath that image is still a big dark void that needs to be filled from an outside source.
The frightening thing about the void of a Narcissist is that it is a bottomless pit.
Once he has us hooked in as a source, our life energy which is the energy we NEED to live our own life will go towards filling his bottomless pit.
It is all done on an energetic level.
Narcissists will easily have many sources because their needs are never ending.
We often make the big mistake of believing that the Narcissist cares about us and would never lie to us or hurt us intentionally.
What we don’t often understand is that the Narcissist is only concerned with filling that void and will do whatever it takes to do that.
Our needs once again are our problem not his and this is exactly how he views it.
Our need for honesty, emotional connection, love and care is our problem not his!
He is under no obligation to take care of our needs.
But he will pretend to care if he believes that it will keep us hooked in as a source.
As women in need of love we can be really naive around the Narcissist.
We will fool ourselves into believing that we are special to the Narcissist.
If we are gullible enough we can earn the status of being special because the Narcissist does NOT have many people in his life who will fall for his lies the way we did.
Some people actually don’t let themselves get hooked by the Narcissist.
Others once they have experienced the True Colours of The Narcissist will detach and take back their energy ,, something we all should be doing.
But a few special ones will stay hooked in forever allowing themselves to be a constant source of light for The Narcissist..
Some will stay hooked giving their life willingly for The Narcissist.
The phrase “I would die for you” is literal.
Because one who stays hooked into A Narcissist will begin to die.
The desire for the love illusion to be real is so strong that one will stay forever hooked into that illusion until they completely lose themselves.
The biggest mistake I ever did was believing that he would never do that to me because he didn’t appear to be a Monster at first.
I really believed that he cared about me.
He had his issues but deep down I was just certain that he cared but I was wrong!
He never really cared about me, he only cared about himself.
I was a Victim of his Narcissism!
I had to really accept and understand this in order to cut the ties and move on.
Of course cutting the ties is another story and it is NOT Easy!
We have been groomed to feed the Narcissist our energy, we have carefully and methodically been broken down and rebuilt to be a source of light for The Narcissist just as a cult member is broken down and rebuilt to be a loyal follower to his master.
Once we understand what has happened and that our master does not have our best interest at heart, we have to go through the painful process of breaking the spell that we have been living under.
It is so painful because we have to admit to ourselves that the whole idea of HIM was just a LIE.
We must be awaken to the truth and break free of the Web of Illusion we have been living under.
It is a process and it takes time but our life depends on it.
His motivations are not love or happiness.
It is power and control!
It is admiration and attention!
It is praise and adulation!
A Narcissist will never care about the needs of a new supply than he did yours but during the Grooming Phase he will convince her that he loves her and cares about her.
The truth is that The Narcissist is emotionally shallow and doesn’t operate from a true emotional connection.
He doesn’t feel pain because he simply doesn’t run that deep.
He doesn’t have the ability to feel true love, happiness or emotional connection whether it is positive or negative.
He is a shallow puddle of water feeding from our ocean of emotional depth.
And it can feel as if we are being siphoned empty.
In order to refill our energy we must cut the cord that feeds the Narcissist!
It is crucial to our survival!
We must look past the sheep and see the wolf who is blowing our house down.
We must build our house on rocks and not sand or twigs.
When he huffs and puffs and realises he can’t blow our house down he will run out of energy and go elsewhere.
At first it will feel painfully empty to have the Narcissist gone because we have been feeding for so long on the adrenaline of the wolf outside our door.
But eventually we will heal and find it safe to go outside again.