Traditional Revenge feeds The Narcissist.
Most people regard revenge as tripping someone up, damaging something of his, inconveniencing him or making his life unpleasant in some way.
To understand how this may not register as revenge for The Narcissist is that by doing any of these things, you are still engaging with him.
Slash his tyres and it will screw up his day and cost him money in replacement but you are still giving him Narcissistic Supply.
You are telling him that you are still thinking about him.
That you are still angry with him.
That he is still dominating your thoughts.
In the twisted mind of The Narcissist, what he is hearing and banking is that he is still important. Significant, Omnipotent, Dominant, In control.
You are telling him that you are hurting.
And in the sadistic mind of The Narcissist, that’s something he loves to hear.
Lots of Narcissistic Fuel to be derived there.
As a general rule, the best revenge you can get over A Narcissist is to disengage completely, sever all ties, heal and get on with your life.
He hates not being able to touch you any longer and to see you going on to achieve success and happiness in your life.
It drives him crazy as it informs him of his insignificance, powerlessness as well as indicating to him that the problem was him all along.
Disengaging serves him a double whammy.
You are depriving him of The Narcissistic Supply that he desperately needs.
It chokes him, forcing him to seek alternatives elsewhere.
Understanding how this is revenge requires a good understanding of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how his mind works.
Essentially counter intuitive thinking.
Exposing The Narcissist.
If you really want to hit the jackpot in terms of revenge, it’s to not only sever ties and starve him of any Narcissistic Supply you are giving him but to deprive him of fuel that he may find elsewhere.
A Narcissist is A Covert Abuser, plain and simple.
Like any other Covert Abuser such as the sexual predator, paedophilic or a con artist, he requires a degree of secrecy in which to operate.
He needs new targets to be innocent and ignorant of his alter ago and to be blind to his grooming.
He needs to prevent the law, the system and society in general from catching up with him.
So exposing him and denying him current or future sources of the very lifeblood on which he depends, Narcissistic Supply, suffocates him.
The Weinstein scandal and the ensuing #metoo campaign are perhaps the best known example of this in action.
A major word of warning though.
If you threaten A Narcissist with exposure, he will do his utmost to discredit you.
Rose McGowan’s rough ride since #metoo is proof.
He does this by launching the most incomprehensible smear campaigns against you and by isolating you from your friends, family and support group and he is very effective in doing so.
So you will need balls of brass to pull this feat off ,, it’s not for the feint hearted.