Do Narcissists Really Believe Their Own Lies?
They hide behind a mask.
They want to believe that the mask is real, so they can disassociate anything and project whatever they want to believe and make you to believe that mask.
They can believe anything.
No matter what they did, it’s you who made them do it.
What they were doing was not cheating because they did not have sex.
If they refuse to talk about it or acknowledge it in anyway then it did not happen.
They have no choice but to believe their own lies because if they were to find fault with themselves they would start falling apart like a house of cards.
It’s a built in feature in that mask, to shadow the truth.
It really is a twisted reality in a Narcissist head.
Somebody else is to blame for everything because they are perfect.
My Narcissist did not remember or acknowledge all the nasty disrespectful crap he pulled out on me.
All the time he hammered me to tears, trashing me in every way possible, disappearing all night, accusing me of stalking him just to hurt me and then venting his frustrations at me to make me responsible for every bad thing in his life.
Many conversations later and all the crap he pulled was never talked about or admitted too.
Too many ways to shut down a conversation or avoid a topic.
It was like beating yourself against a wall, hours and hours spent examining me and my problems.
Anything he was to be accountable for was shut down before the first sentence.
He avoided giving it substance by talking about it.
If he doesn’t have a conversation about something or doesn’t respond to anything you say, then he can dismiss it like a puff of smoke.
Forget it that would really make it real.
Here is the kicker, the more people they get to believe their sack of crap the easier it is for them to believe it too.
He’s got a couple of girlfriends out there eating it up and feeding it back to him so the mirage gets pretty solid.
I remember one Narcissist who controlled people with Anger.
He systematically destroyed my life.
In my opinion, it has to do with how weak and empty they are inside.
The depth of their weakness, and the gap of their emptiness outweighs the moral framework people normally have with respect to honesty in this case, dishonesty and lies.
Normally, your conscience would advise you against lying.
But, Narcissists may either not have a conscience, or have a damaged, compromised conscience.
This is most likely the result of childhood neglect, abuse, trauma, and/or upbringing.
I believe Narcissists condition themselves to believe their lies to protect their fragile ego.
When you get to the point of uncovering, or exposing them to their lies, you get their silent treatment and they freeze because they can’t handle the confrontation.
This is also where and why the deflection, distortion, gaslighting, and projection happens.
They simply can’t handle the truth, and they will use whatever they have in their arsenal to not culpable.
Somehow, deep down and subconsciously, I believe they know that they are wrong, but, the possibility of exposure is too great to bare.
Simply because they have been conditioned to believe that they can’t do anything wrong.
It’s just their natural defence and coping mechanism.
They are not programmed right.
Another thought to ponder, we all know Narcissists will not admit to wrong doing, but, do they ever think they are doing the right thing?!
Narcissists also have a tendency to push people away.
They don’t know how to confront reality, so they push people away, and create their own false reality that suites them even at the cost of friendships, relationships, and in the face of glaring evidence.
They will create their own delusional world to live in and, if you want to be in their world, you will have to play by their rules.
This Defence Mechanism operate in the unconscious.
How can they tell all these lies?!
But from the Narcissist’s perspective, it’s not that obvious.
Narcissism Is Inherently Blind.