Envy And Jealousy Goes Hand In Hand.
Envy occurs when we lack the desired attribute enjoyed by another while Jealousy occurs when something we already possess is threatened by a third person.
Envy and Jealousy goes hand in hand.
I was discarded after I confronted him on a few things, namely the lies he had told, his defiant attitude and his incessant need to overstep clear boundaries.
I also learnt of some unsettling details of his past that probably contributed to his behaviours.
So after being confronted with this information instead of offering an explanation he told me to no longer contact him.
I was more than happy to oblige and of course that’s when the Smearing Campaign began.
I never wanted The Narcissist to be jealous of me and I‘m certainly not jealous of him.
I don’t wish anything bad happening to him.
Now I know that I barely knew him which makes it even more baffling as to why he harbours so much resentment towards me.
I don’t even know if I would classify his behaviour as hoovering as I wouldn’t ever expect him to actually talk to me again knowing what I know about him.
A Narcissist doesn’t feel jealous however he feels strong feelings of resentment in knowing that his Victim has peacefully moved on.
When you are feeling jealous, you are often feeling envious as well.
Also don’t forget that he told everyone how horrible you are.
He told everyone how pathetic you are.
He told everyone lies about you.
In reality he was projecting what he did to you on to others blaming you.
When you are happy, successful and motivated this goes against all the lies.
When his Flying Monkeys see you doing better and living a successful and a happy life this makes them look like idiots.
It risks his exposure even more.
It makes him lose control over people’s thoughts, opinions and emotions towards the person who was discarded.
You just caused him a huge Narcissistic Injury because you are proving him wrong by living a happy life.
Meanwhile he is always cheating, angry, resentful and envious.
The jealousy is not about you.
He doesn’t care about you but he will envy you for your life and for being happy after he discarded you.
So after discard Narcissists don’t feel jealous but he’s envy’s you for being happy.