Let Them Go!!
This was a tough lesson for me to learn and if you are reading this then I’m guessing that it’s something you are trying desperately to do ,, trust me, I get it.
The older I get, the harder it was for me to face a failed relationship whether it be a friendship or a romantic relationship.
After all, who likes to fail at anything?
It also just made me feel as if I was doing something wrong as a person.
Then I began to realise that people failing me wasn’t a personal failure.
In fact, it absolutely had nothing to do with me but everything to do with them.
It’s not your job to prove yourself.
At the end of the day, people will love you or hate you.
No amount of people-pleasing, second chances or even fifth chances will change this.
Learn this and stick to it.
If he likes you, he will show it.
He won’t ghost you or leave you waiting for the next text or even the next date.
If someone doesn’t like the way you are then there are ten more people who would love to get to know you.
Know your worth and move on.
Stop chasing people who won’t give you the time of day.
If it seems like more work than it should be then it probably is.
Why are you crossing mountains for people who wouldn’t cross the street for you?
Why are you swimming a race with someone who would let you drown before they let you win?
Something that I learnt about love that it isn’t a dramatic escapade that puts you through the ringer just so your family can say
“If they can make it then anyone can”
It should be calm and effortless.
Forgiveness doesn’t to accept those who hurt you back in your life.
Even though this person that you tried so hard for claims to be done with you, there’s still a strong chance that they will reach out and say those two words that you thought you wanted but no longer need “I’m sorry.”
There’s nothing wrong in forgiving this person and letting them go because there’s strength in forgiveness.
However, that doesn’t mean that you need this person in your life.
It’s possible to let those go just as they let you and hold your dignity in the process.