Last year my favourite vase broke.
My first instinct was to attempt to put it together again then I laughed at myself.
What am I doing?
I can’t mend what is meant to break.
I threw away the broken pieces and bought a new vase.
We can’t keep what is meant to leave.
Oftentimes we let go of people not because we love them less but because conditions change and so do we.
Having to live with the discomfort of letting go is arduous.
What is even harder is trying to put together the broken pieces but realising it is futile.
When you let go of someone it is valuable to remember few things.
• It is going to be painful.
This is something beautiful to admit.
Letting go of someone we love is painful.
Let us not lie to ourselves and mask our pain with fake happiness.
Forcing ourselves to be happy when we are not is like cleaning a dirty floor with mud ,, it will remain dirty.
• The pain will minimise over time.
No emotion ever whether pleasant or repulsive stays.
It might take days, weeks, months or years but eventually the pain will reduce.
You are getting better every single day but you might not be aware of it.
Don’t worry about your gross feelings at the moment as it is just clouds passing through your clear sky.
Feel it, accept it and sit with it because it won’t stay forever.
• If you don’t believe me check your past.
Our stories often repeats itself but with different characters involved.
Living in the past is unfavourable but we can use it as a compass to point us towards the right direction.
When we are in an unfavourable life situation we forget that we went through something similar in the past and we made it out alive.
We think that we will be forever miserable but it is not true.
Reflect on a past painful experience and look at yourself now.
• What is coming will liberate you.
What is coming next will show you why you had to lose that person.
It is a chain and you just need to be patient enough to see what is coming next.
Remember it might not be what you want but it will definitely be what you need.
• You will be ok.
This I promise you.
Here is the thing about us humans ,, we always adapt.
We often just don’t realise it.
The pain is intense now because a certain routine has changed but with time you will adapt to the new routine and you will make the best out of it.
• You won’t forget him.
You may question how could this be a beautiful truth? But it is and it is striking.
We might never forget the people who pass through our lives.
Even after years a song, a smell or a sight might awaken the memory and it is alright.
Remember it as a part of your story but don’t turn it into a hindrance.
it is true that time heals all wounds but the scars remains.
Our scars makes us who we are today.
It reminds us to remain strong and powerful.
Our scars are our blessings in disguise.
• You just won the chance to fall in love with yourself again.
Shift the love, the attention and the effort towards yourself.
Channel your pain into the relationship you maintain with yourself.
• Happy new lesson!
You just learnt something new.
You may not see the lesson but it will manifest itself once the pain subsides.
It is rare to learn a crucial and life changing lessons without your life turning upside down!
But in 10 years you will look back and laugh at yourself.