Sometimes It’s The Ones We Love The Most!
I believe in keeping it simple.
My life philosophy is simple too.
I take most of my decisions based on what I want to do.
But sometimes instant gratification is calling and we all know how hard that monster is to resist.
And here is the thing about instant gratification.
A lot of the time it is not the worst thing in the world so we are tangled up with somebody who is not right for us.
Most of these situations are resolvable.
I would even go as far as to say it teach us valuable life lessons.
But as with anything there is a caveat to this simple theory.
There is a point at which our desires begin to lead us into an unhealthy domain and it takes a high degree of self reflection to recognise where exactly that point lies.
Sometimes that person or that risk which intrigues us so desperately is also the thing that would bring us down and devastate us if we were to actually follow its trail.
Sometimes we love someone who is never going to treat us the way we deserve.
And the sad truth about any of this situations is that all we can do if we want to retain our self respect is to let him go.
Most of us were taught at some point or another that when we want something badly enough we should put aside everything else to achieve it.
But this doesn’t always hold true.
Wanting a person isn’t a good enough reason to stay in a toxic relationship.
Wanting just about any external object isn’t a good enough reason to sacrifice our inner peace and self respect.
And that is exactly what we are doing when we are putting what we want and desire ahead of what is genuinely best for us.
Because the truth is we deserve better than a person who treats us that bad even if a huge part of us loves to be with that person.
We are too brilliant and too intelligent to let our boundaries slip and slide just to compromise whether it is under the covers or in the world.
One of the hardest lessons we may ever have to learn in life is to learn to say no to a compromise even when we are content to make it.
When we have to judge what is best for us the way a friend or a parent would lovingly and compassionately but toughly do.
To be truly accepting of yourself, you must be able to sit with your darkness.
We always know what is right for us as it sits within our DNA.
It takes practice but like every other muscle in our body we can learn how to flex it and use it to our greatest strength.
Because it is never going to be easy to walk away from what we really desire.
It is never going to be easy to tell ourselves I want this but I deserve something better.
And yet learning to do so is one of the most empowering and liberating things we may ever learn to do.
Because a funny thing happens when we stop settling for rubbish in life
We stop getting it.
Let’s aim to remember that the world will not end if we say No thank you.
Instead it will bring us one step closer to what we deserve.
We are worth everything but first we have to believe it.