The Beauty In Letting Go.
When my favourite mug broke and my first instinct was to attempt to put it together again, then, I laughed at myself.
What am I doing?
I can’t mend what’s meant to break.
I threw away the broken pieces and bought a new mug.
We can’t keep what’s meant to leave.
Oftentimes, we let go of people not because we love them less but because conditions change and so do we.
Having to live with the discomfort of letting go is arduous.
What’s even harder is trying to put together the broken pieces but realising it’s futile.
When you let go of someone, it’s valuable to remember a few things.
• It’s going to be painful.
This is something beautiful to admit.
Letting go of someone we love is painful.
Let’s not lie to ourselves and mask our pain with fake happiness.
Forcing ourselves to be happy when we are not is like cleaning a dirty floor with mud, it will remain dirty.
• The pain will minimise over time.
No emotion ever whether pleasant or repulsive stays.
It might take days, weeks, months or even years but eventually the pain will reduce.
You are getting better every single day but you might not be aware of it.
Don’t worry about your gross feelings at the moment as it’s just clouds passing through your clear sky.
Feel it and accept it as it’s not going to be forever.
If you don’t believe me check your past.
History always repeats itself but with different characters involved.
Living in the past is unfavourable but we can use it as a compass to point us towards the right direction.
when we are in an unfavourable life situation, we forget that we went through something similar in the past and we made it out alive.
We think we will be forever miserable which is not true.
Reflect on a past painful experience and look at yourself now.
• What’s coming will liberate you.
What’s coming next will show you why you had to lose that person.
It’s a chain and you just need to be patient enough to see what’s coming next.
Remember that it might not be what you want but it will definitely be what you need.
• You will be ok.
I promise you this.
The thing about us humans is that we always adapt.
We often just don’t realise it.
The pain is intense now because a certain routine has changed but with time you will adapt to the new routine and you will make the best out of it.
• You won’t forget.
You may question how could this be a beautiful truth?
It is and it’s striking.
We can never forget the people who pass through our lives.
Even after years, a song, a smell or a sight can awaken the memory and it’s alright.
Remember it as a part of your story but don’t turn it into a hindrance.
It’s true that time heals all wounds but the scars will always remain.
Our scars make us who we are today.
It reminds us to remain strong, powerful and aware.
Our scars are our blessings in disguise.
You just won the chance to fall in love with yourself once more.
Shift the love, the attention and the effort back towards yourself.
Channel your pain into the relationship you maintain with yourself.
• Happy new lesson.
You just learnt something new.
You may not see the lesson but it will manifest itself once the pain subsides.
It’s impossible to learn crucial and life-changing lessons without your life turning upside down.
Years from now you will look back and laugh at yourself for once believing that you won’t make it.