The Damage Of Being Betrayed.
Ours were false relationships from the very beginning in which we were targeted, exploited and betrayed.
The quote above gets right to the heart of the matter of emotional rape.
These were never normal relationships that started with love and then just went wrong.
The Psychopath is a predator who completely hides his true identity and motives.
A Psychopath may target a victim with the intent of using her and causing her harm or he may initially experience a genuine attraction.
Even if he does his inability to love or to form an attachment guarantees that things will end badly.
Whatever his motivation, his goal is to manipulate, dominate and control and he will end up devaluing and abusing his victim.
In a profound act of betrayal he only pretends to love even if he starts out with genuine attraction since Psychopaths don’t have the ability to love and does a convincing job of it in order to gain your love and trust, which is what makes carrying out his manipulative agenda possible.
He gain power and control through manipulation and uses his victim for whatever his desire is without any remorse while creating an ever worsening emotional hell.
His grandiosity swells as he watches his victim try in vain to save the relationship she truly believed was the best one of her life.
The Predator gets bored, devalues and abuses the victim because he needs the thrill of someone new.
The Psychopath must act out this manipulative cycle repetitively and compulsively in order to experience feelings of exhilaration and contempt or contemptuous delight which perpetuate his feeling of grandiosity.
~Dr. Reid Moloy, A Respected Psychopathy Researcher~
The Psychopath often ends the relationship with a stunning and a complete abnormal display of contempt, coldness and indifference.
If he is using the relationship to provide an illusion of normalcy he may stick around a little longer.
If the victim ends the relationship, The Psychopath’s grandiosity will suffer and he may attempt to return.
Often he restores his grandiosity by moving on to someone new without looking back.
The victim is devastated as she comes to realise The Psychopath’s love was never real and that she was heartlessly abused and betrayed.
If she doesn’t realise it and many victims don’t understand what really happened until years later, she will continue blaming herself for the demise of what once seemed to be an ideal relationship which makes real healing difficult or even impossible.
Either way she is left with a heart, soul and psyche ravaged by A Predator.
The aftermath of emotional rape often includes rage, obsessive thoughts, loss of self esteem, fear, anxiety, the inability to love or trust, physical illness, irrational and extreme behaviour such as total isolation and withdrawal.
~Sandra Brown an expert in treating women who have been victimised~
A lack of support from friends and family makes things much worse.
Some will blame the victim for choosing to have a relationship with a jerk because they don’t know or can’t believe that he was A Predator capable of hiding his true identity.
Some will blame her for staying with him when she knew it was going bad because they are unaware or unwilling to believe that she was controlled by systematic manipulation.
Others who fell for The Psychopath’s charisma and powers of persuasion may blame the victim for losing a good catch.
Whatever the case no one realises how severely traumatised she really is.
The trauma can indeed be severe.
Sadly some victims of Psychopaths attempt suicide as a result of hopelessness, helplessness and the belief that there is no way out.
Some have reported that The Psychopath has actually encouraged them to take their own lives or have indicated that he would put them through so much turmoil that their only recourse would be suicide.
If you feel hopeless now don’t give up.
Many people have recovered from Psychopathic Abuse even after believing that it wasn’t possible.