The Hidden Meaning Behind What Narcissists Say!!
It’s no secret that Narcissists are highly manipulative.
Although they don’t deserve to be called geniuses, it’s true when it comes to their ability to control others.
They know exactly what they need to do and say to make others bend to their will.
That power alone makes them extremely dangerous.
Language is the main weapon in their arsenal.
Most of the time, what they say and what they mean don’t add up.
These are the true meanings behind some of The Narcissist’s deceitful words.
I Will Change.
A lot of people tend to confuse Sociopaths and Narcissists.
However, the difference between them is that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder do have the capacity to feel empathy.
Despite that though, they are often unable to see their own flaws.
Therefore, it’s hard for them to accept when they have hurt others because they truly believe that they are flawless.
On occasion, A Narcissist may offer you a sincere apology.
Along with that, they may even tell you that they will change their behaviour and never make the same mistake again.
However, it’s probably safer not to take their word for it.
They already believe that they are perfect so why would they change?
What they are really doing is allowing you to win one battle but they will still continue to be exactly who they were before.
I’m The Victim Here.
Arguing with them is beyond difficult.
They can be stubborn, immature and will use a wealth of manipulation tactics to get their own way.
They won’t ever take responsibility for themselves.
One of the main ways that they avoid that is by throwing the blame onto you.
They may say that you are the one attacking them, that you are being irrational or that you are the reason why they did something awful.
Similarly, they could even bring up something that you have done in the past.
Whatever way they throw you under the bus, they are simply trying to make themselves seem like the Victims.
That way, they can gain your sympathy and come out as the victor every time.
You Are Perfect.
Not all of their qualities are bad.
On the contrary, Narcissists are amazingly charming and can often be very sweet and kind.
However, that side of them is only a tactic that they use.
At the beginning of a relationship, they will be as complimentary as possible so that they can reel you in.
They do this because they want you to feel special.
They want you to believe that they think that you are the most amazing person they have ever met.
By doing that, they gain your trust and make you believe that they have your best interest at heart.
Then, when they begin hurting and using you, you will look past all their bad behaviours.
I Can’t Believe You Would …
Although they are charming in the beginning, that can change in the blink of an eye.
Once they have lured you in, they quickly begin to manipulate you in other, more hurtful ways.
They may use any technique from gaslighting to projection to control you.
However, one of the most efficient methods they often use is shaming.
Using shame against you allows them to destroy your self-confidence.
As a result, you stop trusting yourself and instead begin to rely on them for everything.
To achieve that they may claim that things you have done are awful, embarrassing and just wrong.
They may also simply tell you that you should be ashamed of yourself.
When Narcissists say one thing, they usually mean something completely different.
Trying to move through the minefield that is living with them can be especially tricky because of it.
Therefore, it’s crucial that you begin to understand the truth behind their words.
It will be hard at first but it’s completely necessary.