The Incredibly Seductive Pull Of A Very Skilled Narcissist!!
If an extreme Narcissist was religious, he would worship himself.
If he was made of chocolate he would eat himself.
He would apply to himself the phrase that says You shall have no other Gods besides ME!
Narcissists are full to the maximum with themselves.
I have come across an amazing type of Narcissist.
This kind of Narcissist is the one who is so seductive he makes you like or believe in him with your whole heart.
In my personal opinion, this type is the most dangerous of all Narcissists.
The following are some characteristics of this impressive little “God.”
Charm creates a feeling of being delightfully attracted to something.
You can be fascinated with something or someone because of beauty.
Though the looks of a person can be stunning to the point of you saying, “Wow!”, nevertheless, a captivating Narcissist does not necessarily have to have good looks to draw you in.
Good looks, definitely, can increase the magnetic pull towards the Narcissist, but that is not the core.
You can also be charmed by the pulling power of someone reflecting you so as to create a deep rapport.
This intense connection is created when a person gives you the feeling like you have known them a long time or you feel initially safe with them.
They have unlocked the door to your insides.
A skilled extreme Narcissist knows just how to reflect your music back to you so that you feel like he has your playlist of favourite songs.
More Astute than you.
An astute person is one who creatively figures out some unique and impressive angle quickly, an angle only few think about.
Skilled Narcissists can typically outsmart most folks.
They are three steps ahead of you.
They are also fast in coming out with these unique approaches.
That is why you are constantly intrigued by them.
When your relationship sours with one of these Narcissists, you better watch out.
He generally have already thought through how you might react and is ready to discredit you and destroy you.
He has his ducks in order.
When they get a lawyer you can bet that they are determined to humiliate and obliterate you.
A Great Storyteller.
A skillful Narcissist can be one of the Great Storytellers.
He can weave a complex story and mesmerise you with amazing statistics, trivia, quotes, history of events, to the point that you could feel overwhelmed.
Naturally, he would be the centre of those stories, often rewriting history.
These skill full Narcissists are hardly boring.
They incessantly can talk to you with interesting information.
The one I have known, I have often gleaned amazing information from.
He is a student of human nature, but with a goal in mind.
His goal is to further his power by enhancing his stature and influence among those around him.
Sometimes he exaggerates his claims and position.
The media abounds with examples, ranging from politicians and business people to actors who are given the hype.
Skillful Narcissists work hard at being believable about their myths of themselves.
They arm themselves with information that enhances their position and even can change the numbers to suit their arguments.
The end goal is to snag you into his lair.
One trick he uses is to play the game of appearing magnanimous.
In other words, he appears to take the high road of being nobler than you by forgiving your mistakes.
Many times this is a set up to later trash you and destroy you.
I remember the exact steps he took to destroy me.
The Narcissist said something like, “God knows how dysfunctional I am and of course, I have my own flaws but Could you please help her because she is so vindictive and mean, as a matter of fact, I think this person should have an MRI because she has a behaviour that is similar to that of a person having a brain tumour”.
He also said “She can’t be trusted to be in charge of people’s lives and that’s why she must be grounded”.
I could not believe how creative this attack was and I was stunned.
I had to read between the lines to see the fake tears of this Narcissist trying to take the position of Jesus Christ.
Able to Cover tracks.
I am always amazed at how a skill full Narcissist can cover his tracks.
He will play two women at the same time and cover it up with some important business emergency out of town meeting, or a family emergency that he must attend to.
I have even seen him having false online identifications.
Some may even exaggerate accomplishments and even though he works at a prestigious company, he is a hated boss who steals credit from others.
One story sticks out in my mind with this particular Skilled Male Narcissist who slowly tried to destroy me.
He accused me of stalking him and creating fake social media accounts to harass him.
He even went to the extreme of accusing me of being bipolar.
Among the greatest actors in the world,
One of the main characteristics of Narcissism is that there is a wounded and an insecure child inside of that adult.
To survive and compensate, the child has to divert attention and give appearances that are not necessarily true.
The skilled Narcissist has had many years of theatric practice often changing roles to suit the situation.
Because he perceive that his very life is at stake he is zealous to protect and perfect his disguises.
These theatric roles cover a wide range,
Some are comedic.
Others are highly respectable.
There are also those who use intimidation to create distance and admiration or respect.
They might use leather, tattoos, piercings, chains, motorcycles, cars and brash loudness.
They can also choose to be the lovable and huggable teddy bear persona.
With the skillful Narcissist it is not so easy.
The reason for this is that they actually believe they are the persona.
I have known him in a moment of rare transparency and “weakness,” where he admitted to me that he doesn’t even know who he is.
As you can see the Skilful Narcissist is a person with some pretty amazing traits.
In my opinion they can be formidable.
They can be impressive in power, strength, intelligence, size, and difficulty.
If you find one opposing you, he can be an astounding enemy.
They are not omnipotent though they might think so.
They do have limitations.
Their ego is their own undoing.
Many times, when they discover that you are on to them, they disappear.
They do this if they perceive that you can blow their cover and expose them as a sham.
For an Extreme Narcissist, being fully exposed to the world is the greatest pain in his life.
It is also the best medicine to his disease because it will force him to look inside and deal with his pain and wounds.
If and when that happens, he will become like the rest of us, realising that we do need others to help and love us.
He will see how he needs to love from a genuine heart that does not seek to use people.
A former and healed Narcissist can turn all his powerful assets, which he used to advance himself, to making a powerful contribution in the lives of others and being realistically liked.
In the meantime, be careful and avoid being duped and drawn by the amazing magnetism of this dangerous predator.