The Narcissist Worst Fear!
Charming or abusive, seductive or abandoning, the Narcissists fears themselves most.
Surrounded by terrors that reside within and can never be tempered or resolved.
The Narcissist is haunted by fears of their own unworthiness, and at all cost they seek to avoid them by wearing a face of invulnerability, superiority and perfection.
They protect their false face at the expense of anyone who is within their power of influence, their partner, children, employees and friends.
A person with Narcissist Personality Disorder, despises themselves and feels so devoid of value that everyone around them either represents a threat of emotional injury or potential leverage for their ego, either through winning their esteem or asserting their superiority over them.
Either way, they only ab/uses others to pacify themselves and cannot genuinely give, love, or empathise, which further isolates them within their own sphere of emptiness.
Narcissist Fears The Big Three.
While emotionally healthy people want to be truly seen by others and seek partners who are able to give them that recognition of self, the Narcissist is in deep hiding.
Although the Narcissist thrives on attention good or bad, everything they do is in service to protecting their mask, a false self that they wear to hide their shameful black hole within.
To support their constructed self, the Narcissist views their family as a manipulable source of supply.
They will do whatever it takes to secure their cooperation in sustaining their fabricated reality, typically using a divide and conquer strategy to pit family members against one another.
To assert their superiority, the Narcissist compulsively competes with others, often to the point of absurdity, being socially more connected, having a larger television screen, wearing the most stylish clothes, reading more critically acclaimed books, living in a sunnier climate, having more exciting sex, driving a more expensive car, raising more accomplished children or going on the most extravagant vacations and the list continues.
In their game, they continuously strives to outshine, embarrass, and denigrate family, friends, and colleagues.
Humiliation represents public vulnerability, which profoundly threatens the Narcissist’s precious false self.
Being at once hypersensitive and grandiose, the Narcissist is enraged by even small, meaningless slights that others would easily brush off.
For the Narcissist, even a hint at humiliation is a devastatingly shameful cause for vicious retaliation, including rage, belittlement, mockery and a host of other punishments.
Rejection in any form is the Narcissist’s worst fear.
Rejection reveals that which they work each day to hide, their sense of inferiority and unlovability.
Narcissists regard any kind of rejection
personal, social, or professional, as intensely invalidating.
While a healthy person will pick themselves up and try again after rejection, the Narcissist will resort to all means of contorted rationalising, hoovering pulling others back in, and bitter reprisal.
Typically, the Narcissist stages their life to play the rejecting role, and they attunes themselves to rebuff and discard others before they walk away from them first.
But if rejected, a Narcissist will utilise all their tactics, from guilt trips, to grand promises and seductions, to power manoeuvres, to threats and revenge.
As means to an end, they may resort to aggression and pitiful neediness, always to serve their agenda.
A rejected Narcissist in a social setting or work setting, may launch a calculating smear campaign to discredit their former friend or business partner.
Pity for the Narcissist?
The Narcissist’s tragic self loathing would be sympathetic if not for their mask of grandiosity and fundamentally cruel and vindictive lack of regard for other people’s feelings, boundaries, and life struggles.
It is vital to understand that the Narcissist personality does not, cannot, and will not give a damn about anyone’s needs, including, most poignantly, those closest to them.