They Are All The Narcissist.
• The Pathological Liar:
Is skilfully deceptive and very convincing.
Avoids accountability by diverting topics, dodging questions and making up new lies, bluffs or threats when questioned.
His memory is self serving as he denies past statements.
Constant chaos and diverting from reality is his chosen environment.
Verify his words.
Do not reveal anything about yourself because he will use it against you.
Head for the door when things don’t add up.
Don’t ask him questions or you will only be inviting more lies.
• The Contract Breaker:
Agrees to anything then turns around and does the opposite.
Marriage, Legal, Custody agreements and Normal Social and Personal Protocol are meaningless.
This Con Artist will accuse you of being the contract breaker.
Enjoys orchestrating legal action and playing the role of the ‘poor me‘ victim.
Expect him to disregard any agreement.
Have Plan B in place.
Protect yourself financially and emotionally.
• The High Roller:
Successfully plows and backstabs his way to the top.
His family is a disposable prop in his success facade.
Is charismatic, eloquent and intelligent in his field, but often fakes abilities and credentials.
Needs to have iron-fisted control relying on his manipulation skills.
Will ruthlessly support and exploit or target others in pursuit of his ever changing agenda.
Mercilessly Abuses the power of his position and uses treachery or terrorism to rule or govern.
Potential problem or failure situations are delegated to others.
A vindictive Bully in the office with no social or personal conscience.
Often suspicious and paranoid.
Others may support him to further their own Mephistophelian objectives but this wheeler dealer leaves them holding the bag.
Disappears quickly when consequences loom.
Keep your references and resume up to date.
Don’t get involved in anything illegal.
Document thoroughly to protect yourself.
Thwarting him may backlash with a cascade of retaliation.
Be on the lookout and spot them running for office and vote them out.
Educate yourself about corporate bullies.
• The Blame Game Narcissist:
Never accepts responsibility.
Blames others for his failures and circumstances.
A Master at Projection.
Learn about projection.
Don’t take the bait when he blames you.
He made the mess let him clean it up.
• The Violent Narcissist:
Is a wife Beater, Murderer, Serial Killer, Stalker and A Terrorist.
Has a ‘chip on his shoulder‘ attitude.
He lashes out and destroys or uses others as scapegoats for his aggression or revenge.
He has poor impulse control.
Fearless and guiltless, he shows bad judgement.
He anticipates betrayal and humiliation or punishment and imagines rejection and will reject first to ‘get it over with‘.
He will harass and push to make you pay attention to him and get a reaction.
He will try to make you look out of control.
He can become dangerous and unpredictable.
Has no remorse or regard for the rights of others.
Don’t antagonise or tip your hand you are leaving.
Ask for help from the police and shelters.
• The Controller or The Manipulator:
Pits people against each other.
Keeps his allies and targets separated.
Is verbally skillful at twisting words and actions.
Is charismatic and usually gets his way.
Often undermines our support network and discourages us from seeing our family and friends.
Money is often his objective.
Other people’s money is even better.
He is ruthless, demanding and cruel.
This control freak bully wants you pregnant, isolated and financially dependent on him.
Appears pitiful, confused and in need of help.
We will rush to help him with our finances, assets and talents.
We may be used as his proxy interacting with others on his behalf as he sets us up to take the fall or enjoys the performance he is directing.
Know the nature of the beast.
Facing his failure and consequences will be his best lesson.
Be suspicious of his motives and avoid involvement and don’t bail him out.
• The Soulmate:
Is cunning and knows who to select and who to avoid.
He will come on strong and will sweep us off our feet.
He seems to have the same values, interests, goals, philosophies, tastes and habits.
He admires our intellect, ambition, honesty and sincerity.
He fakes integrity, appears helpful, comforting and generous in the ‘idealisation‘ phase which never lasts.
His discarded victims suffer emotional and financial devastation.
He will very much enjoy the double dipping attention he gets by cheating.
We will end the relationship and salvage what we can or we are discarded quickly as he attaches to a New perfect soul mate.
He is an opportunistic parasite.
Our Knight in Shining armour has become our nightmare and our healing will be lengthy.
Learn about this disorder.
Know the red flags of their behaviour if he seems too good to be true.
Hide the hurt you feel and never let him see it.
Be watchful for the internet predator.
• The Sadist:
Is now the fully Unmasked Malignant Narcissist.
His objective is watching us dangle as he inflicts emotional, financial, physical and verbal cruelty.
His enjoyment is all too obvious and will be back for more.
His pleasure is in getting away with taking other people’s assets.
His targets women, children, the elderly or anyone who’s vulnerable.
Establish A No Contact’ rule and avoid him altogether.
End any avenue of vulnerability.
Don’t allow thoughts of his past ‘good man‘ image to lessen the reality of his disorder.
• The Rager:
Flies off the handle for little or no provocation.
Has a severely disproportionate overreaction.
His rage can be intimidating.
He wants control, attention and compliance.
In our hurt and confusion we struggle to make things right.
Any reaction is his payoff.
He seeks both good or bad attention.
Even our fear, crying, yelling, screaming, name calling and hatred are his objectives.
If he can get attention by cruelty he will do so.
Manage your responses.
Be fully independent.
Don’t take the bait of his verbal abuse.
Expect emotional hurt and Volence is possible.
• The Brainwasher:
Is very charismatic.
He is able to manipulate others to obtain status, control, compliance, money and attention.
Often found in religion and politics.
He masterfully targets the naive, vulnerable, uneducated or mentally weak.
Learn about brainwashing techniques.
Listen to your Gut instinct and Avoid him.
• The Risk Taking Thrill Seeker:
Never learns from his past follies and bad judgment.
Poor impulse control is a hallmark.
Don’t get involved.
Use your own good judgement and Say No.
• The Paranoid Narcissist:
Is suspicious of everything usually for no reason.
Terrified of exposure and may be dangerous if threatened.
Suddenly ends relationships if he anticipates exposure or abandonment.
Give him no reason to be suspicious of you.
Let some things slide.
Protect yourself if you anticipate violence.
• The Image Maker:
Will flaunt his ‘toys‘, his children, his wife, his credentials and accomplishments.
Admiration, attention, even glances from others, our envy and our fear are his objectives.
He is never satisfied.
We see his arrogance and haughty strut as he demands center stage.
He will alter his mask at will to appear pitiful, inept, solicitous, concerned or haughty and superior.
Appears to be the perfect father, husband and friend to those outside his home.
Ignore his childlike behaviours.
Know his payoff is getting attention, deceiving or abusing others.
Provide him with ‘supply‘ to avert problems.
• The Emotional Vacuum:
Is the cruellest blow of all.
We learn his lack of empathy.
He has deceived us by his cunning ability to mimic human emotions.
We are left numbed by the realisation.
It is incomprehensible and painful.
We now remember times we saw his cold vacant eyes and when he showed odd reactions.
Those closest to him become objectified and expendable.
Face the reality.
They can deceive trained professionals.
• The Saintly Narcissist:
Proclaims high moral standing.
Accuses others of immorality.
This hypocrite lies, cheats, schemes, corrupts, abuses, deceives, controls, manipulates and torments while portraying himself of high morals.
Learn the red flags of behaviour.
Be suspicious of people claiming high morals.
Can be spotted at a worship houses near you.
• The Calling Card Narcissist:
Forewarns his targets.
Early in the relationship he may ‘slip up‘ revealing his nature.
You need to protect yourself around him.
Watch out, you never know what he is up to.
Laugh along with him and misinterpret his words.
Years later, coping with the devastation left behind, his victims will recall the chilling warnings.
Know the red flags and be suspicious of the intentions of others.
• The Penitent Narcissist:
Says, I have behaved horribly, I will change, I love you and I will go for therapy.
Appears to ‘come clean‘ admitting past abuse and asking forgiveness.
Claims we are at fault and need to change too.
The sincerity of his words and actions are convincing.
His words are verbal hooks.
He knows our vulnerabilities and what buttons to push.
We will question our judgement about his disorder.
We will hope for change and minimise past abuse.
With a successful retargeting attempt, this Narcissist will enjoy his second reign of terror even more if we allowed him back in our lives.