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An article by Psychology Today.

Most people with borderline personality disorder have triggers to particular events or situations that exacerbate or intensify their symptoms.

Borderline personality disorder triggers can vary from person to person but there are some types of triggers that are very common.

Defining a Trigger.
You may have heard the term trigger before but are not sure exactly what it means.

Usually a trigger refers to some events that brings on a major exacerbation of borderline personality disorder symptoms.

This event can be external or internal.

Immediately following a trigger one or more of your borderline personality disorder symptoms may intensify significantly.

Triggers are events that make you feel as if your symptoms are going off the charts.

Relationship Triggers.
The most common borderline personality disorder triggers are relationship triggers or interpersonal distress.

Many people with borderline personality disorder experience intense fear and anger, impulsive behaviour, self harm and even suicidal in the wake of relationship events that make them feel either rejected, criticised or abandoned.

This is a phenomenon called abandonment or rejection sensitivity.

For example you may feel triggered when you leave a message for a friend and don’t receive a call back.

Perhaps after placing the call you wait a few hours and then start having thoughts like
he is not calling back,
he must be mad at me.

These thoughts may spiral from there into things like he probably hates me or I will never have a friend who sticks by my side.

With these spiralling thoughts come spiralling symptoms such as intense emotions, anger and urges to self harm.

Cognitive Triggers.
Sometimes you may be triggered by internal events such as thoughts that can seemingly come out of the blue.

This is particularly true for people who have borderline personality disorder related to traumatic events like child abuse.

For example, a memory or image of a past experience like a traumatic event or a loss can trigger intense emotions and other borderline personality disorder symptoms.

The memory doesn’t necessarily need to be a distressing one to trigger symptoms.

Some people are triggered by memories of good times from the past which can sometimes be a reminder that things are not as good now.

How to Manage borderline personality disorder Triggers.
Triggers are highly individual so the first step in managing triggers is to know the particular events, situations, thoughts or memories that trigger your outbursts of anger or impulsiveness.

Once you have learnt your most troubling triggers, you have a couple options.

First you can figure out whether a particular trigger can be avoided.

For example if you know that watching a certain movie always triggers you then choose to not watch that movie.

Many triggers however can’t be avoided so easily.

If you find that some of your triggers can’t be avoided you can make a plan for coping which includes developing an action plan, seeing a therapist and learning to gradually approach your triggers.

A therapist can help you learn to express your emotions in a way that doesn’t push the people you love away which leaves you feeling abandoned or rejected and thus triggered.

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