Unhealthy Emotional Attachment!
Emotions are like fuel to our soul and without that we wouldn’t be called humans but sometimes our emotions can deceive us and trick us to believe that what we are doing is good for us.
We are all programmed to bond with others.
We all have a desire to be liked by others.
And we all crave to be protected and loved but sometimes our desire to experience all of this makes us blind to reality.
Sometimes we unknowingly decide to live in an illusion, thinking that our love is real and what we are feeling is real.
We choose to become too close too soon because we want to feel the power of love.
We want to feel like we are important to someone and we want it at any cost but we are not aware of any of it.
We are only aware of this strong urge for emotional attachment and that is why we choose to do anything to make it happen.
We choose to live in an illusion that we have met our soulmate even though we have known each-other for less than a week.
This type of unhealthy emotional attachment can scar us for life and that is why we should always be aware of it before it’s too late!
• Becoming too close too soon.
Becoming too close too soon means developing feelings for someone new in record time and being convinced that they are your soulmate and you belong together.
Sometimes this might be the case because it’s possible to meet your soulmate and develop strong feelings for them earlier than usual.
But if this happens regularly then it’s an unhealthy emotional attachment because of the strong urge to experience love no matter what.
That is why our brain convinces us that a specific person is our soulmate and that we are in love with them even though we have known them for a very short time.
This kind of behaviour usually stems from our childhood ,, if one of our parents didn’t give us enough love during our childhood, we turn into adults who are thirsty for the feeling of being loved and accepted.
That is why our brain tricks us to believe that we have found ‘the one’ even though the reality is totally different.
• Being clingy instead of loving.
Being clingy basically means being needy and if you feel like you need that one specific person in your life and you can’t live without them, it has nothing to do with love.
Becoming too close too soon and thinking that you can’t live without that person is an unhealthy attachment and it’s not true love.
Healthy love is developed over time and it’s not dependent on physical appearance, style or similar.
Healthy love consists of getting to know each other’s fears, wishes, dreams and personality then developing your feelings gradually over time.
• Over-identifying with strangers.
This one is about people who find themselves strongly attached to those who show them the slightest amount of attention like a smile, being paid compliments or being offered help with something.
When a stranger does something nice for them, they immediately link this with a stranger’s affection for them because they exaggerate the importance of it.
They do this because of their strong urge to establish an emotional attachment due to being neglected in that aspect during their childhood or later on.
They tend to develop strong feelings for strangers and they are convinced that they feel the same about them even though it’s all just an illusion.
• Feeling overly connected to people who hold some kind of power.
This unhealthy emotional attachment is about wanting something that you yourself don’t have.
It’s about feeling overly connected to people who hold some kind of power because you idolise them for their certain abilities or good looks.
For example, they become overly connected with actors because they are perceived as positive by the masses and they have something powerful that makes them worthy in the eyes of the public.
They individuals are convinced that they can receive love from them and they think that they are the only people who can understand them and make them feel worthy again.
• Constantly seeking some sort of relational validation.
Due to a lack of confidence and self-love, some people start to blindly pursue the latest trends, become obsessed with stars and their perfect bodies.
They start thinking that they should fix all of their ‘flaws’ and look like their idols to be worthy of love and admiration.
This attitude causes them to end up in an unhealthy emotional attachment because of thinking that their body, hair and everything else need to be perfect and recognised by others as such and that only then will they be worthy of being with that someone whom they admire and support.
This behaviour forces people to pretend that they are something they are really not and it destroys their initial personality.
The constant pursuit of perfection and validation from others is a vicious cycle that can destroy our well-being and scar us for life.