Why Is It So Hard To Recover From All The Abuse?
It is hard to recover from Narcissistic Abuse because by the time you figure out that something wrong is going on, you have dug yourself a very deep well to crawl out of.
I dare anyone to identify A Covert Narcissist.
They are incredibly innocuous and initially unassuming.
You can be exemplary when it comes to reading people.
You can be intelligent, accomplished, well-educated, self-sufficient, self-aware and have great self-confidence and self-esteem.
Covert Narcissists are just as another person, normal in every way.
You get the sense that they too are just like you in every way, to include the capacity of experiencing the complete array of human emotions.
Covert Narcissists are not people who wear grandiosity and malignant selfishness on their sleeves.
Covert Narcissists are so clever at hiding their personality disorder and this messes with your head in a major way.
I believe that most of us assume that people with personality disorders are obvious on first blush.
A Covert Narcissist’s kindness and consideration is offset by ridiculous expectations and untoward perceptions.
Covert Narcissism has a way of making you think that maybe you are the one who has been a bit too accommodating and accepting ,, a bit too human.
You honestly don’t know what to make of the behaviour so you rationalise.
Covert Narcissists are more shallow and superficial than most people but still pretty good people despite of it all.
Covert Narcissists are socially awkward, possibly have a communication disorder, don’t understand that these are things that you don’t say or do.
By the time they unleash the full, frontal betrayal, like I have said, you have already dug yourself a pretty deep well.
I think that it’s only natural for us to wonder if there’s something about us that attracted this kind of human being.
You know, that water rises and sinks to its own level.
For a long time, I wondered if I was a terrible person to attract such a terrible person until I understood that my normalcy and sense of morality had nothing to do with it.
Those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are opportunistic and somewhat indiscriminate, they look for someone who can give them what they are looking for at the time.
You don’t have to be a unique person to provide them those things.
Had you not agreed to go on the first date, another woman would have agreed and it would have been her not you.
You just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.