You Can Choose To Give Meaning To Heartbreak.
I have tried to convince myself time and time again that everything happens for a reason.
That every event in life is part of my fate or puts in place a little piece of my destiny.
I have tried to believe that everything happens no matter how slightly is brought to life by a spark in the atmosphere and thus has direct intention and conviction.
I have tried to convince myself of this many times.
But as my life has played out I have reached the conclusion that this simply isn’t true. This isn’t how life works.
Sometimes things just happen that are beyond our control.
Sometimes these are unprecedented miracles and other times these are heavy burdens glaring us in the eyes.
Whether it is good or bad it may have no logical explanation.
It may be built on the sheer unknown rather than on hard facts.
And although it is comforting to believe in the meaning behind all things.
I now firmly believe that not everything happens for a reason.
Awful things happen in this world and tragic heartbreaking events happens everyday.
I don’t feel comfortable finding solace in these tragedies by persuading myself that these things are all backed up by reason.
I don’t think that every event in this world has a rhyme or reason.
I don’t think that when we go through hard times we automatically come out stronger, brighter and happier.
If this was the case wouldn’t we be more welcoming of hardships and more open to heartbreak?
It is soothing to claim this.
It is comforting to tell ourselves that when we go through hard times.
That we will meet the end of the dark tunnel with the best days of our lives and every dark cloud has a silver lining.
I can’t lie and tell you that these claims are true.
I can’t live under this shelter of innocence for the rest of my life.
But what I can tell you is that when things happen you can choose to give it a reason.
You can choose to let it impact you in ways that change you for the better.
You can create a new reality in which these happenings have meanings in which it changes your viewpoint of the world.
You see it is up to you to decide how to react to it.
It is up to you to turn external forces into internal actions.
It is up to you to deem things as positive or negative, good or bad because most of the time it is not black and white.
Most of our lives take place in the grey.
But this greyness empowers you to paint the world with your own brush.
To allot meaning and wisdom to the hard times.
As human beings we are not completely protected from experiencing pain.
We are not some unusual powerful beings that only experience the good.
But we are incredibly resilient and we are powerful beyond measure.
We are easily jarred but not easily broken.
Because of this we have the ability to continue to thrive even after we endure great sufferings.
We have the right to rise up over and over again.
We have the power to give our experiences meaning in such a way that it strengthen us.
When we grow and move forward we often possess a new sense of humility, a new sense of understanding and compassion as long as we look for it.
So while this world can’t shield you from heartbreak and while the moon and stars can’t protect you from tragedy, the world has given you the quiet inner strength to continuously grow.
To grow even braver and stronger than you ever expected.
To grow to new levels of grace and humility.
But remember that this growth must be conscientiously chosen.
You must actively pursue this growth.
Although bad things may happen with no rhyme or reason, you are blessed by the universe with the ability to create reason.
You are able to change these scars into empathy and value.
Use your sadness to develop a kinder heart.
Use your pain to gently shake the world and to help support others in their times of pain.
So although you can’t run from hardships and although you can’t avoid your heart from being broken.
You can choose to assign meaning to this heartbreak.
You can choose to be changed for the better by these pivotal life events.
You can choose to stand up stronger than you were when you entered the fight.
So I stand by my assertion that things do not happen for a reason.
But if you face life with bravery,
If you choose to rise up rather than giving in you can give meaning to heartbreak and value to sadness.
You can decide with conviction to allow events to change you for the better.